If you haven’t already, we suggest you review the “Sharing something and not knowing if it makes sense” solution. That said, there can be multiple reasons why someone doesn’t care or listen to your opinion. For example, they may not think it does or will help them achieve any of their goals. Do note that their assumptions may be incorrect, but that’s ultimately out of your control because they formed the assumption, not you.
Overcoming this trigger will require you to be ok with the fact that some people will not care about your opinion and you may not always know why. Oftentimes, we (humans) knowingly or unknowingly think we should feel bad when others don’t care about our opinions because we if we didn’t we think that would mean we don’t care to have our opinions valued or heard by others.
In other cases we may knowingly or unknowingly think that one way for us to know we matter is if our opinion matters. There is nothing wrong with wanting these things, but you put your emotional peace at stake if how you feel is influenced or depends on how your opinions are regarded or received by others. Choosing to be at peace when ignored doesn’t mean you believe your opinion doesn’t matter or that the reasons why others ignore your opinion are true reflections of reality.
Your opinion may not always be beneficial
You aren’t perfect so there could be times when your opinion won’t or doesn’t help the people you’re interacting with. By help, we mean it doesn’t help someone achieve any goals they have.
Whenever you’re ignored, you can reflect, or if you think it’s appropriate and worthwhile, ask others to understand why your opinion was ignored. This allows you to learn from the situation so that you can increase the odds of sharing an opinion that will be used or considered in the future.
Sometimes, you may find that it’s the group of people you’re with, not what you’re saying. It’s possible that if you were to share opinions that were ignored in one group in a group of people who have more similar interests than you, your views would more likely be positively received or atleast, acknowledged.
If you’re struggling to be ok with being ignored, we recommend you read our article on why labeling things as unacceptable creates anxiety.
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If you struggle with low self-esteem, self-consciousness, low self-worth, or low self-confidence we encourage you to view our self-help solutions for these and other common psychological challenges.
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