Not Feeling Good Enough

The solution for never feeling good enough is addressed in the I’m inadequate solution. In addition to reading that article, it’s important to recognize that there’s a level of realism you must embrace to transcend not feeling good enough.

Some parts of society encourage people to “dream” and pursue things that aren’t a good match for who they are. By “Who they are,” we mean your likes, interests, skills, abilities, goals, etc.

It’s easy to think we have to pursue and achieve certain things because of what other people say and do. If you take a step back, you may find that some of the things you’re currently chasing are things that, deep down, you don’t genuinely want.

This realization can be freeing because not ‘good enough’ feelings are sometimes a byproduct of chasing things we don’t actually want. This means that your feelings of not feeling good enough could be feedback that the things you’re going after don’t align with your true interests, goals, uniqueness, etc.

What if you’re really not good enough?

If you are going after things you genuinely want and find you aren’t good enough–which just means you don’t meet a certain set of qualifications/standards at the moment–you can use this awareness to improve yourself and get closer to achieving your goal. You can do this neutrally, without feeling bad about not being good enough, because with time, effort, and desire, you can be good enough tomorrow. This shift in thinking will reduce your anxiety and optimize your ability to perform.

Root cause limiting beliefs you may have to dismantle

• I’m Flawed
• There are inferior people

Other helpful insights

• How to view things neutrally – without feeling bad like the stoics