The solution for never feeling good enough is addressed in the I’m inadequate solution. In addition to that it’s important to recognize that there’s a level of realism you must embrace to transcend not feeling good enough.
Parts of society encourage people to “dream” and pursue things that aren’t matches for who they are. By “Who they are” we mean likes, interests, skills, abilities, goals, genuine wants, etc. It’s easy to think we have to pursue and get certain things because of what other people say and do. If you would stop chasing whatever you’re currently after if you didn’t see other people chasing it or get encouraged by others to chase it, there’s a chance that deep down, you don’t genuinely want it.
This realization can be freeing because not ‘good enough’ feelings are sometimes a result of chasing things we don’t actually want. In a way, feeling not good enough can be internal feedback that yes, you aren’t good enough because what you’re going after isn’t the right fit for your skills, interests, goals, etc.
If you are going after things you genuinely want and find you aren’t good enough–which just means you don’t meet a certain set of qualifications at the moment–for whatever that thing is, you can use this awareness to improve yourself and get closer to achieving your goal. You can do this neutrally without feeling bad about not being good enough today, because with time, effort, and desire, you can be good enough tomorrow. This shift in thinking will result in less anxiety and optimize your ability to perform.
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