You may see this as downright unacceptable. If so, you likely have reasons why you see it as unacceptable. For example, you may think that others will view you as weak or think you’re unable to do certain things.
People may label you all sorts of things, but overcoming this trigger will require you to stop viewing labels you’d prefer to avoid as reasons to feel bad or anxious. There may be times when you think these labels could hurt your ability to get what you want, but we encourage you to really analyze if that’s true.
If it’s true, why? Is what you’re trying to get solely dependent upon whether you get anxious or not? If it is, are you 100% sure you actually want what you say or think you want? A goal that doesn’t allow for any imperfection and can only be obtained without you ever being anxious might not be the right fit for you right now.
You may have to consider changing your environment
In some cases, you may be in the wrong environment for getting what you want. If you aren’t in the right environment, you can address that reality while neutrally acknowledging that you may not be getting what you want because you get anxious at times.
You may unknowingly take the inability to get what you want as a reason to be anxious. You may also unconsciously think that not being able to get what you want means something is wrong with you.
All that said, you may overlook that if you really want what you say you want, you will have natural motivation to go after what you want. If natural motivation isn’t there, you may not really want what you say you want. We put forward to you that that’s ok. Having different motivations and desires reflects your uniqueness. That said, your desires and goals can change over time. Although you’re not motivated to do something right now, you may be inspired to do it later.
To be anxious is to be human
Is it possible for someone to have zero anxiety? Maybe, but we do know that no one is perfect, so you experiencing anxiety is an example of human imperfection. If you want to be less anxious overall, then we suggest you ensure you understand what causes anxiety (in the recommended reads section) and commit to eliminating your anxiety triggers. Resources for eliminating an anxiety trigger are in the recommended reads section. You can reach out to us for individual help, leave a comment on a solution, or use our ‘Eliminate a Trigger’ post and comment section to collaborate with others and us to eliminate specific triggers.
Recommended reads for overcoming social anxiety
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