If you haven’t already, we suggest you review the “Sharing something and not knowing if it makes sense” solution. That said, there can be multiple reasons why someone doesn’t care or listen to your opinion. For example, they see how it will help them achieve any of their goals. Do note that their assumptions may be incorrect, but that’s ultimately out of your control because they formed the assumption, not you.
Overcoming this trigger will require you to be ok with the fact that some people will not care about your opinion, and you may not know why. Oftentimes, we (humans) knowingly or unknowingly think we should feel bad when others don’t care about our opinions. If we didn’t feel bad about being ignored, we think that would mean we don’t care to have our opinions valued or heard by others.
Your internal peace, happiness, worth, etc, does not have to depend on how others treat you
You may knowingly or unknowingly think that your opinion must matter for you to matter. There is nothing wrong with wanting your opinion to matter, but you put your emotional peace at stake if how you feel is influenced or depends on how others acknowledge or receive your opinions. Choosing to be at peace when ignored doesn’t mean you believe your opinion doesn’t matter. It also doesn’t mean that the reasons why you were ignored are true reflections of reality or things you agree with.
Your opinion may not always be beneficial
You aren’t perfect so there may be times when your opinion won’t or doesn’t help the people you’re interacting with. By help, we mean it doesn’t help someone achieve goals they have.
Whenever you’re ignored, you can reflect, or if you think it’s appropriate and worthwhile, ask others to understand why your opinion was ignored. This allows you to learn from the situation so that you can increase the odds of sharing an opinion that will be used or considered in the future.
Sometimes, you may find that it’s the group of people you’re with, not what you’re saying. It’s possible that if you were to share the same ignored opinions in a group of people who have more similar interests than you, your views would likely be positively received or at least acknowledged.
If you’re struggling to be ok with being ignored, we recommend you read our article on why labeling things as unacceptable creates anxiety.
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