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This also addresses people feeling anxious around you.
Since you likely dislike anxiety, you may get triggered when you see others getting anxious. You may also get anxious if you think others are getting anxious because of your presence.
There may be times when your presence triggers someone to be anxious and although it may feel like you are the cause of the anxiety, the real cause is likely their psychology/thinking. Why? They’re being triggered for a particular reason that only they know. It may be about you, but unless they came out of the womb being triggered by you, their trigger is not solely because of you.
Also, some people may get triggered by you because you don’t live according to the expectations they have of you or people in general.
Eliminating the trigger
An often helpful question to eliminate this trigger is, should you care about them being triggered? If so, why? Does their being triggered have anything to do with any of your short-term or long-term goals? If it does, you may want to confirm with them whether they get anxious in your presence, and if so, ask why. If you ask this from a place of wanting to create a harmonious relationship with the person, they will likely respond positively or neutrally.
If their being triggered has nothing to do with your goals, and you genuinely don’t think you’re doing anything to make them feel bad or anxious, then they may have inner work of their own to do. You are, in a way, a reminder — for them — that they have inner work to do. It may not be pleasant to know that some people get triggered in your presence, but for you to have and maintain inner peace, you have to be okay with this happening. If not, your body is likely (by design) to trigger anxiety whenever other people are anxious around you and whenever you think others may get anxious around you.
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